Conflict and Disagreement

Conflict and Disagreement happen all the time sometimes we see the result coming and sometimes we don’t. Without conflict and disagreement how do we find out what is hurtful how do we learn what others may not like?

The world is made up of many different colours of needs, wants, expectations, ways of being and thinking. So many types of ordering things for so many people is a miracle of juggling and rubbing shoulders with all kinds of people. So how has mankind got this far? I hear you asking.

Well my friend; it has taken to now, to achieve openness on a global scale. The need for fences, walls, boarders, caused by lack of mobility and knowledge of a greater world then the one that the individual knows, caused a form of isolation. This meant that people were able to build their mode of interaction with their locality based fellow man. Think about it; before the twentieth century travel to other groups of people was only afforded to a very few people. So there was a distinct lack of knowledge that there may be other ways to look at life and experiences, there may be other ways to order how you do things and how you set societies life goals for living harmoniously together. The majority of people stayed in the same area, same village and even the same street. So to mix all the colours of experience that are built out of conflict and disagreement these isolated societies built their own rules for living. These rules for living are now the sources of conflict and missunderstandings that become the buliding blocks for new experiences gained from discourse with other people, who are not of the same understanding, same social standards and do not hold the same expectation of life goals and so the circle turns.
As life has always ordered its self around the needs of the group. As the world opens up and people mix with other people who are of like minds but of another social ordered group conflict will occur. Beliefs, life rules to survive and understandings or how to look at something will cause questions, arguments, miss understandings and so disagreements and conflict. In the individuals at first and in the wider levels of society in the longer term until new ways of looking at things can be found. Once these new ways of looking at things to see that each individual is looking at exactly the same thing and that it is the semantics of the colours that are causing the conflict and disagreement. Once this has been understood new orders, new ideas, new ways of looking at things can be agreed upon. Unfortunately as this new order emerges rules are prescribed for this new way of seeing things. In the setting of the new rules one makes experiences valid, one gives a name and a legitimation to the idea and so leads the way to new conflict and disagreement that will follow as new ways and experiances enter the expaeriances of the individual. So the circle turns once more.
Some call this anarchy others call it the rise of the phoenix. I call it growth of the individual in the form of grace.
Ok what is grace?
Grace is a little girl who never washed her face.
She grew out of patience
Patience is the doorway to achievement.
As my father used to always say:-
Patience is a virtue,
Virtue is a grace
And grace is a little girl who never washed her face.

Become grace dear friend. Give honour and love to those who bring you conflict bless them know that they give you the new knowledge that you need to be able to look at their vision their semantics and then see where these meet your own. In this you can see that the path you both walk is the same in the same direction and with this new purpose grow.
Then you can stop the conflict so you can build a new understanding and then pass them on to the rest of your fellow humans. We grow out of the minority in knowledge and as that knowledge is assimilated it becomes a truth. This truth grows as it is passed from one to another in this way we become the majority. In this majority one must remember to let go of the dogma and the rules that no longer fit but take the best of what we know into the new assimilation without annihilating self or society.
I leave you with this thought my friends feel free to argue this is how we grow just drop the conflict.
Love and light
Demici.

Author: Demici

Hi please enjoy the work that I place here and on my Facebook just look for Demici. or Rosemary Sladden. My motto is 'My computer is my wheelchair'. Because I am dyslexic and the technology of the computer and the keyboard have helped me to communicate using the written word. So all I place here is my own work ably assisted by Grammarly and WordPress. Who I am! I am finding it hard to learn how to be retired. Maybe if I look at it as just doing the things I love to do? Now I have time my ambition is to travel on every bus and train in England. The fun is to find out what is around and watch the countryside as I travel through it. More fun is being a medium (talking to dead people and working with guides who take me to where I need to be) So I would love to serve every Spiritualist Churches in England. My writings come from my life experiences and the learning that has taken me down many paths of interest. From becoming an intuitive Spiritual Life Coach, Spiritualist healer, Reiki master, medium, teacher, philosopher to being a mother, grandmother, landlady who shared her home with many other people. From working as a turkey farmhand to driving a forklift truck in a warehouse. From traveling across the world during my childhood to settling down in my own little cottage in the north of England. I share it all here for those who are interested. I have gained experience and obtained qualifications that are listed below. I use them to help me understand my life as well as to help any who asks me for help to understand and improve their lives. Life Coach, I can help me to look at people as individuals living a life that is different from mine and yet some of the experiences that they face have taught me to see that we all have lessons to learn in this life and need support to learn them from time to time. I learned how to teach people how to look at life from a different understanding place so that they can see their own way forward. I am still learning how to be the best medium I can become. So that I can offer that bridge/telephone line between the two worlds and join friends and family who have passed into the next world with those in this world who. My thought is that we all can and do achieve this all the time it is nothing special just sometimes we are so upset disoriented that we think we can't. IF we loved someone once we can always know them because the memory sits in our heart. Healers work with energy and guides and their own spirit self to help to provide the energy so that other people who are in need can repair their own Dis-Ease. I have used this place to put some relaxation and self-help poems, videos, sound recordings, lead visualization meditations I hope you find them useful. Lookout in the near future for the video files that will be here when I find out how to make them and then put them here. Philosophy comes through in the poems I write that you can read on my blog, I hope you like them. If you would like me to help you please contact me (say that you have come from this site please) and I will see what I/we can do to help. Something about me as a person. I am a great grandmother and used to live in a shared house that was very busy most of the time. Now great quietness is all around me as I move to a new one-story terraced property. (cottage) I have loved to travel all my life. Why do I like to travel? Because I meet all kinds of interesting people. Some of the stories are posted on here for you to read. I hope you like this place and if you do please feel free to send me feedback I love feedback good or bad! love and light to all who visit Demici

2 thoughts on “Conflict and Disagreement”

  1. well i would call it anarchy and thank god for it, because at this time i can talk to anybody anywhere in the world, we talk and find our hopes and fears are the same and how we dont like extremists of any culture. as we talk long held bounderies from history melt away, a shop keeper in one country and culture wants the same as another from a different one. most of all the elite educated can no longer dominate, as education has become open to all through new means and media. so much for there safe little corporate world. we are as you say at the start of a new realisation, i wonder where it will go, to a more peacefull and stabler world i hope.

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