Archive | January 2013

Conflict and Disagreement

Conflict and Disagreement happen all the time sometimes we see the result coming and sometimes we don’t. Without conflict and disagreement how do we find out what is hurtful how do we learn what others may not like?

The world is made up of many different colours of needs, wants, expectations, ways of being and thinking. So many types of ordering things for so many people is a miracle of juggling and rubbing shoulders with all kinds of people. So how has mankind got this far? I hear you asking.

Well my friend; it has taken to now, to achieve openness on a global scale. The need for fences, walls, boarders, caused by lack of mobility and knowledge of a greater world then the one that the individual knows, caused a form of isolation. This meant that people were able to build their mode of interaction with their locality based fellow man. Think about it; before the twentieth century travel to other groups of people was only afforded to a very few people. So there was a distinct lack of knowledge that there may be other ways to look at life and experiences, there may be other ways to order how you do things and how you set societies life goals for living harmoniously together. The majority of people stayed in the same area, same village and even the same street. So to mix all the colours of experience that are built out of conflict and disagreement these isolated societies built their own rules for living. These rules for living are now the sources of conflict and missunderstandings that become the buliding blocks for new experiences gained from discourse with other people, who are not of the same understanding, same social standards and do not hold the same expectation of life goals and so the circle turns.
As life has always ordered its self around the needs of the group. As the world opens up and people mix with other people who are of like minds but of another social ordered group conflict will occur. Beliefs, life rules to survive and understandings or how to look at something will cause questions, arguments, miss understandings and so disagreements and conflict. In the individuals at first and in the wider levels of society in the longer term until new ways of looking at things can be found. Once these new ways of looking at things to see that each individual is looking at exactly the same thing and that it is the semantics of the colours that are causing the conflict and disagreement. Once this has been understood new orders, new ideas, new ways of looking at things can be agreed upon. Unfortunately as this new order emerges rules are prescribed for this new way of seeing things. In the setting of the new rules one makes experiences valid, one gives a name and a legitimation to the idea and so leads the way to new conflict and disagreement that will follow as new ways and experiances enter the expaeriances of the individual. So the circle turns once more.
Some call this anarchy others call it the rise of the phoenix. I call it growth of the individual in the form of grace.
Ok what is grace?
Grace is a little girl who never washed her face.
She grew out of patience
Patience is the doorway to achievement.
As my father used to always say:-
Patience is a virtue,
Virtue is a grace
And grace is a little girl who never washed her face.

Become grace dear friend. Give honour and love to those who bring you conflict bless them know that they give you the new knowledge that you need to be able to look at their vision their semantics and then see where these meet your own. In this you can see that the path you both walk is the same in the same direction and with this new purpose grow.
Then you can stop the conflict so you can build a new understanding and then pass them on to the rest of your fellow humans. We grow out of the minority in knowledge and as that knowledge is assimilated it becomes a truth. This truth grows as it is passed from one to another in this way we become the majority. In this majority one must remember to let go of the dogma and the rules that no longer fit but take the best of what we know into the new assimilation without annihilating self or society.
I leave you with this thought my friends feel free to argue this is how we grow just drop the conflict.
Love and light

Fly the Kite

Fly the kite set the sail

Know that all you do goes well

Find the market set the stall

Open your mind and answer the call

When the winds blow in your favour

All that is you will find a flavour

Peaches apple tart sun set oranges and jam tart

For my darling I love you and I watch all day through

When you have some tale to tell

I sit and listen by the wishing well

All my love goes in your pot

And all I have is what you have got.

The elephants eye is as high as the sky

all that he sees is all that there is

all that you need is in your own hand

so stand and survey your own land

love and light  12 January 2013 at 06:29am



Today I sat with my head in my hands

No hope is in me I’m in the quick sands

Time drags me on to the man with the gun

No soup in my bowl not even a bread bun

Then out of the blue your smile changed my view

With the blast of the sun all my grey days are gone

For twas me, me alone who sang my woe song

Count your blessings you said to me

Then as the clouds lift life you will see

The strength the light the me

Then you can the future see

That all has to end

To find a new friend

I’m glad that I opened my eyes

I’m glad that I learnt pains disguise

No I am able to wipe the tear

From my eyes as I look keep and long

At the words of your song

Don’t borrow sorrow from tomorrow

You will hide the sun.

Love and light Demici @ Saturday, 12 January 2013 at 1:24 AM